Mentioning “Self-Care” In Certain Ways Can Inadvertently Silence People

Yes self-care is important, especially in the aftermath of any form of trauma, let alone day to day as a person marginalized in this society. But sometimes I feel like people yell out “self-care” in a way that silences and inadvertently is victim blaming. If I describe something horrible and chronic, let’s say financial stress from generational poverty or that I am trolled and attacked online everyday (so I am not speaking of acute trauma) and someone says "well self-care is important" how did they help me? To me it sounds like “if you did engage in self-care, then you wouldn’t have these problems or they wouldn’t affect you.”

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Source: Trudy at Gradient Lair